; self confidence

I think maybe you guys know. I am a really socially awkward person to begin with, i always feel like an error ; a misfit. It just bugs me though i keep urging myself not to believe that i am one & this post i have today here is to urge people to try to build their own self confidence. 

It's a really hard thing for people who seems to be very quiet and far stretched from the people around; who seems that they are constantly in their own world, people like me. 

But i believe that self confidence can be done and there are many reasons why this is really essential in our lives.

Do you believe? 

-If i said i used to be so afraid to speak to people that i literally have anxiety like panic attacks within myself.

-That i am someone who doesn't even dares to raise up her hand to ask a question in class.

-There was this period of time where i had such low self esteem that i could rarely talk to people and just had this very hot-tempered and go home to cry alone.

I cannot emphasise on how much gaining more self confidence helps me to become the person in which i truly wants to be. I still had a long way to go because my nature is like i am a introvert person who has a really loud mind which probably explains why i am a fan of being in my own daydream and constantly being very blur.

For some people my blurness is funny , even adorable. But i could frankly tell you it has brought to me troubles as well as some adults just could not stand it and lose their cool on me. 

It is not healthy to stay into a boundary you force yourself to be restricted into! 

ways to build self confidence:

1) Tell yourself you love yourself.

This is very important, as the saying goes " You love yourself first before you can love others",

once you master how to treat yourself better ; you will be more confident of yourself as you treasured yourself as a individual. Not as in the type with you love yourself so much that you are selfish but the type that you know what your inner self wants best for you.

2) Go on dates with yourself alone.

When i tell people that i go out to eat alone and that i don't mind doing so people will stereotype me as being a loner. I admit i was so afraid of being alone when i was younger, like i do not even dare to be left alone in my house. However, i decided to try going out alone more, eating alone and i might possibly venture into watching a movie alone. 

It sure is fun to have a friend along with you but sometimes all we need is just some of our own personal space to help us reflect by ourselves, without any influence from our friends. 

When you are out alone you will learn to be more independent and confidence to speak up when you need help for someone (e.g a shopowner)

3)Remember your flaws are okay.

who doesn't have flaws? 

If you scrutinise every bit of your physical appearance or some particular character trait that isn't pleasant;

think about how no one is perfect. cliche but that's the truth.

Don't you let insecurities get in your way if you are determined to be a better, confident person.

4) Be kind whenever possible.

This is one of the ways that help me in gaining more self confidence. I would always love to help people if it's within my means and that in the midst of helping i get to talk to them etc. An act of kindness don't have to be something really big and noticeable, sometimes the little acts matters as much as well. Maybe some minority individuals will still have negative reactions to your actions but think about the majority instead. 

5)It's okay to be upset.

I feel closet with myself when i am upset. I would know that something is wrong and that i need to fix it, need to do something about it. Many of the times is always the fear rushing in but if you really want to do something, just do it. The risks are there but risks are always everywhere. Pain happens, even from your loved ones, but it's inevitable. However, suffering is optional.

If you think you need to cry it out, cry it out. 

& then start to plan what are the possible solutions you came up with.

6)Pick up hobbies.

They say that a person is made up of what he/she likes.  Through doing things you like, you discover strengths and potential that you had knew you had before. And it's always so fun and comforting to know that you have a talent maybe somewhere. Because not all of us are studies-material students (having good grades all the way). 

7) Make your inner voice tell you

: "It's okay, just go ahead and do it. It gonna be alright."

Fake confidence if you needed to, trust me it really do helps. 

8) Learn to say "No" when you think something is not right or when it isn't to your belief; which you disagree to.

Since young, our parents has always taught us to be polite and always agree to what they say and growing up we find it hard to denied people when they ask us to do something. For an instance, take the example of a very convincing salesperson, who tries their every mean to get us to buy their product and probably from the start you wanted the item but in the midst you realised that you do not want it anymore yet you are afraid to say 'No'? 

There lots of other factors for you to venture! All of these are taken from an honest perspective of mine and that you might disagree to it but i hope it helps someone ! x 

:)

 I might still be a wallflower but i am okay with that with the self confidence i had built & i'm still working on it each day. 

  

xx,

-agsh