Cultivating the mind .
There is a huge problem in our education system, yet many fail or even neglect the fact of the cracks that are present for years till current. This unreviewed problem brought further trends of negative impacts later to our lives, perhaps even without our awareness.
No matter what age you are, the mindsets are always the one that will aid in becoming someone better than before. And that besides from always the older teaching the younger something, the older could also be taught by the young on other things. Age is just a number when it comes to learning. Both a 10 year old and a 50 year old could be learning of the same/similar thing.
So what are the so-called common examples of negative impacts due to this flawed education mindset?
: Instead of cultivating individuals to be someone better than their previous selves, they are cultivating to become one that is more superior to their peers. Yet, is there really a need for this competition?
It leads to individuals living in their bubble that solely with paper qualifications you can be the best of the best with the rest, leading to inflexibility and rigidness towards feedback given by people around.
I know this is very real because i myself experience it before way back from the days back in primary school. I used to top the class and yes, it is such a delightful, contented feeling knowing that i came in 1st to my classmates. Subsequently, i also came in top for the graduation exams in the final year. Compliments flow in, especially with my mum taking my grades as pride and telling relatives and friends. I was showered in the limelight that i am somebody smart and great.
Whereas in contrast, i had a younger brother who didn like studying and my parents love to take me as a comparison to my brother, constantly questioning him why was it that he couldn be half as good as me at least. Certainly i knew my brother was affected, it was as though as the world was telling him that he was lousy and he believed that he is lousy.
As for me, the world world was telling me how smart i am, and i like to believed that as well.
Both of these lead to one same consequences - Not seeking of improvements.
My younger brother was pretty much convinced that he was so dumb that he didn see the need to prove others that he could be half as good as his sister, something which our parents convinced him that he probably couldn be. While for me, i was pretty much convinced that i am smarter and therefore question why do i have the need to study as hard and began my daydreaming habit in class. Throughout my secondary school life, I could hardly focus and almost always on no motivation to finish my assigned homeworks given. I have the tendancy to only love to do works i am good at, while avoiding all those which i am not because i am afraid that it will become a threat to my esteem. As a way of procrastination because i am too scared of failure.
Not only in terms of just education and work, it also affects our relationship with others. Having a fixed mindset will always made you think that the other party is wrong and assign blame. The blame game should be avoided as much as possible. We should take on the problem as it is and solve it, not trying to attack others and evade the root of the problem. Because so what if you successfully assigned the blame to the other party? Just how many times can you assigned or take on the blame?
On the other hand, a growth mindset helps you to try to emphatise and look at the problem as it is and not personal attacks on others. It helps you to acknowledge and learn the fact that the people around us are capable of growth and of change.
Try to take things on a different perspective, think of failures, bad experiences, heartbreaks as a way of life, as part and parcel of growth. Note that it's okay even if you are not sunrise and butterflies all the time. Do not let all these define all of you. Take all of these and create your own personal story, you experiences are valuable and unique in a way that only belong to solely you and no one else. And that you will always be on hunt, in adventures for new stories.
Quit seeking constant seeking approval from others, quit taking criticism too personally & cultivate your very own growing mind, embracing challenges along the way.
Article extracts from : https://www.brainpickings.org/2014/01/29/carol-dweck-mindset/
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Here a question, how many of you had the triumph of topping the class for a particular test/exam? In addition, with positive compliments from your teachers and peers. How did it feel to constantly be striving in exchange for validations from the people around you. Yet somehow, everyone of us secretly wants to taste that sense of mighty even if you'd denied it.
When we start thinking we are the best at something, or in the back of our minds think that we should be the best at something, then we are definitely losing out so much more. The truth is that the best is always yet to be, and there is always going to be someone better than you are. After all our circle of environment taken into comparison is often very small, for example the population space of your class/workplace/school.
I had been reading again, as always and constantly reading. Knowledge like we all know is infinite, and knowledge has various perspectives as well. Even when i am writing this particular blogpost, it might not be 100% accurate even without the use of statistics, for sure we all know there are occurrences of exceptions in certain cases.
Inspired from an article from BrainPickings, i am sharing of the two main types of minds - The fixed mindset vs the growth mindset.
As living beings, we tend to stay in our comfort zone, because that's where we feel the safest and without threats. Yet if we never at least try, never venture, we will never know what the grass is like on the other side. Is it greener? Or maybe it isn as green but you brought to yourself a bucket more of experiences." Why waste time proving over and over how great you are, when you could be getting better? Why hide deficiencies instead of overcoming them? Why look for friends or partners who will just shore up your self-esteem instead of ones who will also challenge you to grow? And why seek out the tried and true, instead of experiences that will stretch you? The passion for stretching yourself and sticking to it, even (or especially) when it’s not going well, is the hallmark of the growth mindset. This is the mindset that allows people to thrive during some of the most challenging times in their lives. " - Dweck Carols.
No matter what age you are, the mindsets are always the one that will aid in becoming someone better than before. And that besides from always the older teaching the younger something, the older could also be taught by the young on other things. Age is just a number when it comes to learning. Both a 10 year old and a 50 year old could be learning of the same/similar thing.
So what are the so-called common examples of negative impacts due to this flawed education mindset?
: Instead of cultivating individuals to be someone better than their previous selves, they are cultivating to become one that is more superior to their peers. Yet, is there really a need for this competition?
It leads to individuals living in their bubble that solely with paper qualifications you can be the best of the best with the rest, leading to inflexibility and rigidness towards feedback given by people around.
I know this is very real because i myself experience it before way back from the days back in primary school. I used to top the class and yes, it is such a delightful, contented feeling knowing that i came in 1st to my classmates. Subsequently, i also came in top for the graduation exams in the final year. Compliments flow in, especially with my mum taking my grades as pride and telling relatives and friends. I was showered in the limelight that i am somebody smart and great.
Whereas in contrast, i had a younger brother who didn like studying and my parents love to take me as a comparison to my brother, constantly questioning him why was it that he couldn be half as good as me at least. Certainly i knew my brother was affected, it was as though as the world was telling him that he was lousy and he believed that he is lousy.
As for me, the world world was telling me how smart i am, and i like to believed that as well.
Both of these lead to one same consequences - Not seeking of improvements.
My younger brother was pretty much convinced that he was so dumb that he didn see the need to prove others that he could be half as good as his sister, something which our parents convinced him that he probably couldn be. While for me, i was pretty much convinced that i am smarter and therefore question why do i have the need to study as hard and began my daydreaming habit in class. Throughout my secondary school life, I could hardly focus and almost always on no motivation to finish my assigned homeworks given. I have the tendancy to only love to do works i am good at, while avoiding all those which i am not because i am afraid that it will become a threat to my esteem. As a way of procrastination because i am too scared of failure.
Not only in terms of just education and work, it also affects our relationship with others. Having a fixed mindset will always made you think that the other party is wrong and assign blame. The blame game should be avoided as much as possible. We should take on the problem as it is and solve it, not trying to attack others and evade the root of the problem. Because so what if you successfully assigned the blame to the other party? Just how many times can you assigned or take on the blame?
On the other hand, a growth mindset helps you to try to emphatise and look at the problem as it is and not personal attacks on others. It helps you to acknowledge and learn the fact that the people around us are capable of growth and of change.
Try to take things on a different perspective, think of failures, bad experiences, heartbreaks as a way of life, as part and parcel of growth. Note that it's okay even if you are not sunrise and butterflies all the time. Do not let all these define all of you. Take all of these and create your own personal story, you experiences are valuable and unique in a way that only belong to solely you and no one else. And that you will always be on hunt, in adventures for new stories.
Quit seeking constant seeking approval from others, quit taking criticism too personally & cultivate your very own growing mind, embracing challenges along the way.
Article extracts from : https://www.brainpickings.org/2014/01/29/carol-dweck-mindset/
-a.g
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